We have all heard it before and will hear it again.
The phrase, “live in the present moment” has spread across our generation like a wildfire.
The media hones this experience by presenting it through different aspects of advertising and publicity.
Nicki Minaj’s hit single “Moment for Life” actually serves as Pepsi’s global domination commercial by expressing the genuine desire to live in the present moment.
It also focuses on what is happening right now, rather than what has happened or what will happen.
Being an avid believer in “present living,” I notice that, within others and me, many people are stressed and preoccupied with what has happened or will happen to them in the future.
It is sort of funny to think that one experience can hold someone back from what they are doing for more than even one minute of the day, let alone weeks or months on end.
The nature of living in the present moment really depends on how well one is connected with themselves and how well they can understand legitimate consciousness.
I personally have experienced the loss of time simply through concentrating almost all of my energy on the past.
For example, I lost my cell phone back in high school because I left it at a park while I was visiting the beach.
Little did I know that someone would eventually get it back to me, nearly three days later.
I kept arguing and complaining with myself, getting aggravated every step I took.
I was trying to figure out in my head what went wrong and how I could have possibly left it sitting there and just -walked away.
In those three days, nothing else mattered to me.
Friends, having fun on the beach, eating out with my family or even talking to new people on the boardwalk — nothing had a positive effect on me.
I was utterly at a loss of words and spent the entire time thinking and not caring about anything else.
I managed to realize that, in the end, nothing really changed.
I still had everything else.
I was still healthy, I did not feel sick and the only thing holding me back from having a good time with the people I cared about was the simple notion that I should feel aggravated over something that was out of my control. The phone was missing, that is obvious. But the shear amount of time wasted worrying about the past was absolutely ridiculous.
People go through break-ups, lose friends and endure terrible experiences, but the time they spend thinking and replaying images and memories in their heads — whether those images be bad or good — is almost sad in a sense.
They waste precious time by not living life and enjoying what is right in front of them.
Living in the present moment means allowing experiences to come and go as they please.
Not concentrating on one person, idea, belief or happening that has already happened will be the best thing you have ever done for yourself.
Time is hands down the most expensive accessory anyone can give you, but we need to realize that wasting any time on things that are out of our control is useless.
Therefore, live in the present moment.
Do not be afraid to have experiences and enjoy spending time with friends and family.
Sure, losses will happen and bad things will come up, but the only real pain that stays is the thought processes you put into that pain.
Letting experiences stick with you is one thing, but dwelling on past mistakes is another.
Make this life worth living by knowing the difference and I guarantee you will feel much happier and accepting of new experiences in no time.
This is, of course, just my two cents on how I view living.
I just feel others should know how easy it is to actually live without bad experiences holding us back from doing what makes us happy.
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